How to Get the Man of your Dreams

I'm in love.  I fell in love with my current boyfriend when I was in the 7th grade. That was over 25 years ago!

I have told this story several times so I decided to share it with you.  When I was in junior high school the first time my boyfriend said hi to me back then I literally thought my knees would give way and I would fall right in the middle of the hallway.  It happened one day when we were changing classes.  I was leaving band and he was going...well I don't know what class he was going to because I was too big of a chicken to actually talk to him, like a real conversation. 

I admired this extremely cute boy from a far.  I saw him in the park at random times playing basketball or just hanging out with his friends.  I faded in the background eliminating him from my life in my mind.  He was out of my league.  At that time I just wanted him to notice me but he didn't.  And even though he finally said hi to me that one day in school, 25 years later when I saw him again he did not even remember!

Over the years though after a time I stopped seeing him around I never, ever forgot him.  He would pop in my mind from time to time.  I replayed that day in the hallway when he said to me in my mind like a movie.  I was not obsessed with him or anything, I would just enjoy the memory on occasion. 

One day when I walked into the cafeteria at a job that I used to have, I could not believe who was standing in front of me.  After 25 years there he was working in the same place I worked.  I did not say anything at first because I don't know I was not really believing it was happening.  But it did not take long for me to approach him and introduce myself.  I was no longer that big chicken of a girl back in junior high school. Soon after that we started to date. And we have been together since--it has been over 2 years.

Here are a few things I believe helped me to get the man of my dreams, perhaps they will help you to:

• Let time prepare you for the man of your dreams. If someone is meant to be in your life I believe the Universe will draw them to you. Neither one of us were ready for each other back when when we were younger.  Letting time prepare you for the love of your dreams is important.  
• I also believe that our hearts will search out another person. A place grew in my heart when I developed the incredible crush on the man I'm in love with all those years ago.  And that place never became filled with anyone else. Yes I had other relationships over the years but I still thought about my crush from 7th grade periodically.  I think its because it was created especially for him.  I never grew out of it.  He stayed imprinted on my heart.  And even though it was 25 years later my heart connected me to him and he appeared in my life. 
• I approached him this time. The idea that a man is supposed to magically know you want to talk to him is crazy.  Guys can't read our minds.  If a woman wants to talk to a man its okay to approach him and start a conversation.  At least let him know you exist. 
  
• Then I played it cool. After my initial introduction the ball was in his court.  I had broken the ice by letting him know I was approachable and friendly.  It was up to him to continue the communication.  I detached.  I really did not even have it in my mind that we would date.  I was honestly just being friendly and was happy to see him  and happy to not be so scared anymore.  Soon after he was seeking me out and wanting to talk to me.
  
• I still took it slow.  Since I did have memories of this boy turned man I did allow who I thought he was from back then kind of dictate my idea of him.  Since he was so cute a lot of girls liked him back then so I assumed it was the same way today.  I did not want to be a groupie so I took it slow.  I made it a point not to be too clingy.  And I let him do the chasing.  We women mess up when we start chasing a man.  If you chase him honey he is going to run!